It’s not like I have deep dark ugly secrets (I never killed a man with a grapefruit knife or anything) but you know, most of us have issues in their past or present that we still deal with a little. . . examples might be (i’m making these up too) abuse in your past or if you used to be an alcoholic or if you are struggling with money more than you let on.

thanks for your insight!

Three of the most common dating mistakes women should avoid are:

Sleeping with him too soon. This is one mistake that woman unknowingly make all the time. They feel such a strong attraction to a man that they can’t help themselves and they are intimate with him on the first or second date. Although you may hope that he’ll find this irresistible and he’ll think you’re sexually sure of yourself, he likely won’t. What he will think is that you probably do this with every man you date. He won’t find that appealing at all. Having sex with a man too soon can mean the end of the relationship in an instant.

Pushing him for something serious. Why is it that when we meet an amazing man we have to want him all to ourselves right away? Many women push for an exclusive relationship after only a few dates. Nothing scares off a man as much as this. He’ll think you’re desperate for companionship and he’ll think you’re too quick to hand your heart over to him. Give it some time before you start asking him to only be yours.

Calling him all the time. Even if you’re wildly crazy about him, you don’t have to talk to him several times a day. Whenever a woman continually calls a man she’s dating, he’ll start to think of her as a stalker instead of a girlfriend. Men don’t want to be with women who hunt them down. They prefer women who play hard to get. Leave all the calling to him early in the relationship. If you let him call you’ll actually stand a much better chance of having a relationship with him instead of a short lived fling.

The simple answer to the question of how often should you call your boyfriend is less than he calls you. That means that if he calls you twice a week, you should be calling him once. The reason this advice is so instrumental is that it keeps the communication part of your relationship very balanced. What typically happens in dating relationships is one partner, almost always the woman, takes on the role of being the primary caller. She picks up all the slack in the relationship when her boyfriend won’t call. She calls him daily and over time shows him, through her actions, that she’ll take care of the calling. Most women really don’t want this job at all and end up doing it by default. They become impatient when their man doesn’t call so they do it.

If you call him less, he’ll call you more. It’s part of the balance that you don’t want to mess with. If a man knows you’ll call him at some point during the day, he’ll be less inclined to call you. He’ll see no reason to. He knows he should expect a call from you because you’ve shown him, through your past behavior, that you’ll call. Therefore it stands to reason that if you don’t call, he’ll have no choice but to call.

If you’ve already made the mistake of calling him much more often than he calls you, this can still be fixed. Pull back slowly now by decreasing the number of calls you’re making to him. He’ll get the hint before long and he’ll actually start to wonder what’s happened to you and why you’re not so eager to call anymore. Anytime a man feels a woman pulling away he’ll work harder to draw her closer. This works in virtually every aspect of your relationship, including communication.