My boyfriend and I live together and I recently found out he spoke to gay men and met with them. Im so confuse
We have in the past two years and recently moved in together. Last month I found an e-mail secret he had, and he had an email homosexuals. He was looking for gay people in our area and had his picture, and even with a hit for lunch. I confronted him about it and I told him I would not be his girlfriend, but I would still be your friend. He said he was not gay or anything, he just felt I choked, as he has no friends or anything. He knew what he did was wrong, but he swears he is not. I told him I had not before, your parents or someone I’d say keep it secret, but he says he is not there. He was the perfect guy for me in life and now with this doubt in my heart. We went to therapy and he told me how he felt, but he was not gay. I try every day to put what happened behind, but I have doubts and pain in my heart that habit continues. In’m confused about this. What should I do?
well i had a similar situation—only the guy slipped up in telling a story. so i asked if he was gay. he denied it. i ended up breaking up with him ove something else and find out a month later that he is gay
Wow. He’s definitely gay.
HE IS GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY
Girl dump him, he’s gay.
None of its loving in £o confundiz it, thats it. IN £o it costumava to believe that the man, it é straght it é to be with você é fool. E to go to make the test.
This scenario has played out twice before my eyes and the outcome was horrendous. The man eventually determines he wants the male counterpart companion and leaves his wife and children heart broken. Be thankful your eyes were opened before your life was ruined. This man isn’t honest
with himself or you.
Ok, well you have different opinions. I wouldn’t mind if my husband was gay or bi. I would be upset, but I would rather have him leave me for another man, than another woman.
And if he’s bi, then well that would be a dream come true. 2 bi men and one hot chick. Yeah I’d encourage his gay friend to move in with us.
But I guess I’m different.
You have two choices; trust him or don’t trust him. You have to follow your heart on this one.
He is so GAY ONLY GAY MEN GO TO GAY SITES!!!!! STOP LIEING TO YOURSELF!!!!! Get out before you get something you dont want
You shouldn’t be living together. I would say get married but he needs to figure out what he wants a man or you. I would say you need to move out. for encouragement to both of you listen to ttb. org.
It sounds like he’s confused too.
I’m thinking that he does have interest in men and he just doesn’t know what to do about it.
It is confusing him, but yet he doesn’t “want” to have any interest in men.
If he is gay, eventually it will come out, but not until he’s ready to admit it :{
Here’s the thing. Sigh. I hate to tell you this.
But from my own personal experience men who emulate, admire, seek out gay men are in the closet.
I had this happened personally.
A very handsome man I was dating kept bringing up how handsome and cool and successful a gay male company he knew were. He was jealous of them.
Also he told me he thought boobs are kinda of uniteresting after a while.
And he worked out 6 days a week.
Got mani/pedicures.
Highlights in his hair.
Sunless tanning. Afraid of wrinkles/fat/aging
If youre guy is at all like this.
HE IS GAY.
well you know he is gay, so i think you should move out. he is not ready to come out – or even admit to himself his new found sexual preference.
please move out – do not stay in any relationship that you’re not 100% happy in.
do not settle 4 less
Love and support him in whatever capacity it needs. When he is not gay, then stood beside him, when his gal, and his speech on this tour. If he is gay, then he needs a friend and I love him so much, and to heal your heart, for a straight man, the emptiness, fill to be left in your life.
He’s gay, but really embarrassed about it. If he wasn’t gay, be wouldn’t be searching out and meeting gay men. if the real issue was you suffocating him, then he would join a poker night, and go to titty bars. you’re going everything you can, and you’re so supportive of him. just give him time, leave him, and try to move on. one day you guys could be really great friends.
that is a tough one . . . I, like you would want to give him a second chance . . . however, I can’t help but think how unusual it would be for a straight man to search out only gay men — you would think he could just make friends in general, don’t you think? This is definitely odd on his part, maybe move back out but stay together to give him a 2nd chance; but ONLY a second one – no more than that
(I agree with Meg actually, don’t be a softy like me. Listen to her & get out before you invest any more time in him. )
he is so fabulous
Você has that to follow in front. more than what vel that without it proves
A heterosexual man is almost never curious about being gay enough to secretly e-mail them and meet with them. He may not be ready to admit it, but you are right to be upset and suspect that he is gay whether he can admit it or not. Saying that you are suffocating him from meeting friends is at best a half-truth.
Since I don’t know your whole story, I can’t be absolutely sure, but it sounds like he will eventually come to terms with being gay. The moment that he does will mean a final end to your romantic relationship with him, and if you’re still around trying to be a heterosexual girlfriend to him, you’ll find out how quickly your relationship evaporates.
Be his friend, and by God, don’t have children with him under any circumstances!
Well, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck. So just why in the world would this guy be “seeing” gay men, if it wasn’t for the obvious. We can wish and hope all we want, but that doesn’t change things. You don’t have to say anything to anyone else about this guys behavior, but you have to leave him behind. I guess I don’t have to lecture you about STDs or HIV. Move on now toward a happy life with someone who isn’t a worry or burden to you. Best wishes.
It seems that he struggles with his sexuality and, unfortunately, you are very concerned because you’re in a relationship with him. Even if he says he is not gay, it seems certain that he has at least explored the idea. Maybe that’s all he did, maybe not. It’s safe to say that he was with the thoughts that do not share with you, and he acted on these thoughts to some degree. Even if you do not want to hurt you, it is not fair to you at all. You should at least consider seriously and to end the relationship. Emotionally ready to leave, it will be easier to actually do it, if you do this step. Another idea is that he may have done more e-mails and have lunch with other people (male or female) and that could put you at risk of contracting STDs.
I think hes gay. Why would he be looking for gay men in the first place??? That’s what they all say when they get caught. My cousin husband ssaid the same thing when she found his secret email. He was like,im not gay,im just looking for friends. he was like I swear that im not gay, then his wife even believed him. One week later, I saw him at the mall, holding hands with a man, and kissing. Then later, she found out she had aids, and Hep B!
If I was, you would be scared to death! He could would be meeting men, and having one night stands. He know they are gay, so he might make his move. I known several women that went through this, and it is so sad. My aunt is a counselor, and she has several cases of women finding out that their husband is gay, and having aids. YOU BETTER BE CAREFUL.
I try to be the one who is always positive but not here. If your heart tells you he is gay, he most likely is because only you seen what was there. He might also be bi but in any case, do you want someone who is not totally committed to you. You have to put yourself first on this one. Good Luck
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