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dating: when to share your secrets?

Posted: April 12, 2010 at 7:59 pm 12 Comments

How long into dating someone new do you think you should wait before sharing more personal information? I think measuring this in days and months won’t work, so lets say – how many good dates or what other new things are going on in the relationship when you think it is time to be more open about things in your life/past etc.

It’s not like I have deep dark ugly secrets (I never killed a man with a grapefruit knife or anything) but you know, most of us have issues in their past or present that we still deal with a little. . . examples might be (i’m making these up too) abuse in your past or if you used to be an alcoholic or if you are struggling with money more than you let on.

thanks for your insight!

12 Comments »

  • Tien D said:

    yo tell him the secrets when he’s drunk, he would remember the next day and try not to be raped

    # 12 April 2010 at 8:03 PM
  • . said:

    When you feel comfortable

    # 12 April 2010 at 8:59 PM
  • Diane S said:

    I don’t think you can decide that way. . . . I think you will know when the time is right. . . . good luck

    # 12 April 2010 at 9:50 PM
  • Shabbatime said:

    A year

    # 12 April 2010 at 10:03 PM
  • Juleette said:

    Você has that to keep some, perhaps, of time in when, when it committed, after that, he freed one, but to keep the mysterious men love strangely it mantém to learn more on você

    # 12 April 2010 at 10:11 PM
  • cynthia said:

    iono but guud luck

    # 12 April 2010 at 11:09 PM
  • Nik said:

    I thought it leaks a little secret pulled the man inside he found me interesting and true. Now he knows everything and is so nice to have no dangerous territory. He found, probably on the 4th Day He thinks my past made me who I am and he’s the good part of me.

    # 12 April 2010 at 11:13 PM
  • michaelknight_2000 said:

    After the second date, when it looks like things may be moving in a serious direction. This way he’ll have all the cards on the table and decides if it’s worth continuing on. He more than likely will continue on with the relationship if he’s a good person.

    # 12 April 2010 at 11:25 PM
  • dr fields said:

    you don’t have to at all ,,,,look . . . . what you did in your past is yours;;;; same goes for him;;;;; go live life and have fun,,,,if it don’t work out ”’then do you have to tell the next one . . . . .

    # 12 April 2010 at 11:28 PM
  • Mr_wall2005 said:

    well me and my girlfriend started telling secrets after i asked her if she masturbated, which was several months in

    there is no “planned” time, it is when you really trust that person alot

    # 12 April 2010 at 11:37 PM
  • ahawkins2001 said:

    I think IT really depends on what it is. . Somethings are better left unsaid as later they may use them against you. . Lets say you are low on money, he may think you are with him just for money. . Or maybe you did drink alot in your past but don’t now,that doesn’t matter as your past is just that your past. You can’t change it you can only move forward.

    # 13 April 2010 at 12:03 AM
  • Feed♥Me♥Seymour said:

    Once you’re married. Seriously. And yet you do not need to tell someone everything. Why give personal information to someone you’ve done? The chances are very good, you’re not always with him. Consider yourself a break too chaotic, or fight. People, even good people tend to use what they know about on your weaknesses against you.

    # 13 April 2010 at 12:42 AM