How to Talk to Women

You’ve just spotted a beautiful woman across the room. Your feet have disconnected from your mind and you are standing right in front of her with your legs shaking, heart rate about to explode and a huge rock has seemed to have lodged itself in your throat, impeding your ability to speak. Sound familiar? You’re about to learn what dating experts have known for years about Learning How to Talk to Women.

Women are complex, but when it comes to approaching to talk to them, they all require the very same thing. Forget about memorized lines that may have worked a few times in the past. If you are attracted to her, then you’ve already placed some value on her, so you are naturally nervous. She has all the cards so you must play it her way.

Successfully approaching a woman means being able to talk to women like you would with anybody else. Remove the mystique and think of her as a co-worker or cashier at the grocery store, i.e.: a regular human being. This removes all nervousness and takes a lot of the pressure off.

Most guys are so intimidated by women that once they’ve approached one, they revert back to their comfortable place of ‘let’s close this deal’ attitude, i.e.: Hello gorgeous, come here often? Let me buy you a drink and by the way, what’s your phone number? They don’t know women and it reflects by how they end up talking to them. This almost never gets positive results.

Women are conversationalists at heart so are turned on by a man who can converse with them like any other human being instead of treating them like a piece of meat. They like flirtation and mystery and many men just aren’t built to be that way. But you can learn to talk to women.

If you’re serious on learning how to talk to women then you must learn how they communicate. Women use a form of language called ‘Indirect Communication’, meaning their conversations are subtle with lots of reading between the lines. Since men are not so good at this form of communication, the best way to get around this is to send women mixed signals. This tends to confuse the wiring in a woman’s brain as she tries to figure out just what you’re meaning. It is performed by your body sending a positive signal while your speech sends a neutral signal. Imagine yourself seated with her, lean in close a lot, make good eye contact, playfully tap her on the back while making a joke and then say to her that you enjoy being with her but you have to be somewhere at thus and such a time. Your body is telling her you’re attracted to her while you are articulating that you have options. Mixed signals drive women crazy with the mystique. Automatically they are interested and intrigued by you.

Forget about those cheesy memorized lines. Drop the ‘let’s make a deal’ attitude with her. Do pay attention to how women communicate and use the method of sending mixed signals as this really is how to talk to women. It’s mysterious, playful and women will adore you because finally they have met a guy that speaks their language.

Online Dating Rules: What Photos are You Posting

When you are putting your profile together it’s important to pay attention to the details. Things like your headline, photo and comments in your profile can make the difference between someone who approaches you and someone who passes you by. A picture really does say a thousand words. A single picture can tell someone more than just what you look like. They also can tell someone about your recreational choices, your choice in coffee houses, and even a bit about your self-confidence level.

Here are a few tips to make your online photo the best it can be:

  • If you don’t have any suitable recent photos, arrange to go out with friends. Relax and have fun. Get your friends to take lots of photos of you. Hopefully, you’ll get at least one that you’re happy to post.
  • If you have a photo of yourself in a social environment, use that one. It will give a better impression than one of you seated on your sofa at home.
  • Watch for identifying landmarks in your photos. If you routinely go biking on the local trail and post a picture of yourself and bike on that trail, it is unsafe to post on your profile. You may open yourself up to a stalker.
  • Don’t post photos of yourself looking unhappy, drunk, hung-over, lonely, or on a bad hair day!
  • Avoid expensive accessories for your photo. It sends a high maintenance signal.
  • If you want to post multiple photos, make sure that they’re varied and interesting.
  • Avoid multiple photos taken at the same time. Don’t use it as an opportunity to demonstrate in six different ways how attractive you are. It should be an opportunity to convey the fact that you’ve got an interesting life.
  • It’s OK to change your photo from time to time if you come up with better ones, or if they get more than a year old.
  • Even if a photo is a professional one make it look casual. Never wear high fashion garments or accessories. This is the time that casual speaks louder than professional.
  • Your photo should accurately represent you as you are today. For example, if you have lost or gained more than 10 pounds you should replace the photograph with one that is accurate.

Nothing screams desperate faster than a woman who posts a photo of herself 10 years younger than she is, or a man 20 pounds’ thinner.

Dating sites will often give you guidelines for your photos. Be sure you read these and comply or you might find yourself reported to the management. Many times, they ask that you are central to the photo and usually the only one in it. The photo should be clear and current.

Be sure that your photo is:

  • one of you smiling
  • shows your eyes clearly
  • represents the real you.


  • Post photos in skimpy, tight clothing.
  • Use heavy makeup.
  • Only wearing dark glasses.

Remember that your photo represents YOU before they can meet the real you.